luthia
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Post by luthia on Jul 11, 2014 23:10:29 GMT -4
Date/marry/lust after whomever you want, but to me people who swear off an entire race (especially their own) means 1) they're nuts 2)they consistently make bad dating choices 3) no one they dated will put up with their shit because of 1 and 2 so they declare the grass is greener the other side of the racial fence. I think Halle is as nuts as the day long and full of drama. In her higher profile breakups there was always something wrong with the guy not her. Benet and David Justice once they got away from her went low key, got married, had families and you don't hear much about them except for their careers. Even Aubry (wasn't his Halle alleged sin that he was a racist?) post break up had a brush with the Kardashians but except for the Halle related drama and occasional father daughter pap photo he's low key. Sherrie wanted a man. He smelled her desperation and money and bam! Actually, I am not surprised it did not work out with David Justice. I was watching a recent episode of Celebrity Wife Swap, which he was on. He strikes me as a very mean, self-centered and domineering man. He dominates over his wife and seems incredibly selfish and arrogant. He even walks with an arrogant strut. His wife seemed to have little say. She is docile, which is why he probably married her. Halle, despite her flaws, doesn't seem to be the kind of woman who could be sublimated for too long since she had her own career and had a rising career when she was with David. When I saw how domineering and selfish he was with his wife on Celebrity Wife Swap, I understood immediately why it never worked with Halle. Halle would never have been stupid enough to put up with it. His new wife seems to be happy to cater to his every need (including serving him breakfast in bed every morning) and to keep her mouth shut, probably because she believes she is lucky to have him.
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jmc
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Post by jmc on Jul 11, 2014 23:28:06 GMT -4
Date/marry/lust after whomever you want, but to me people who swear off an entire race (especially their own) means 1) they're nuts 2)they consistently make bad dating choices 3) no one they dated will put up with their shit because of 1 and 2 so they declare the grass is greener the other side of the racial fence. Sherri is going to attract horrible men until she works on herself, even if she broadens her horizons and dates white men. There are black men out there who have their own jobs, are progressive, and would treat her with respect, but she doesn't want them, she wants a Promise Keeper, man has dominion over the household type. Nothing about Sherri indicates she would choose a respectful non-black man if only she looked elsewhere.
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Post by Coffeecakes on Jul 12, 2014 2:21:32 GMT -4
My question is why is it that minorities are always encouraged and expected frankly to "expand their horizons" and date outside their race? I have never heard that for white people. She chooses shitty men because they are shitty not because they're black. She probably prefers black men and there is nothing wrong with that.
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Post by MrsOldManBalls on Jul 12, 2014 9:12:53 GMT -4
I don't think it's the colour of the man's skin that is the issue, I think it's the quality of the man that's the issue, but I don't know if Sherri sees that. We all have preferences, and if she prefers brown skin to light skin, so be it. We like what we like.( I think short guys are super hot, but I know a lot of women don't -more for me is what I say!). That being said, I think she needs to step back and take stock, two shitty husbands in a row leads me to believe maybe she's got issues she needs to work on for herself and only then will her dating choices improve. Is she settling so she isn't alone? Is it a self-esteem thing?
As for the baby-surrogate thing, that is just a sad situation all around. Poor baby. I hope all the drama is over before he or she gets too big, that someone steps up to be a loving parent and life settles down peacefully for him or her.
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Post by Neurochick on Jul 12, 2014 21:45:29 GMT -4
My question is why is it that minorities are always encouraged and expected frankly to "expand their horizons" and date outside their race? I have never heard that for white people. She chooses shitty men because they are shitty not because they're black. She probably prefers black men and there is nothing wrong with that. It's a numbers game. If someone has a profession or lives in an area where they don't come in contact with many people of their race, it makes sense to date "out." My issue always has been that Black men seem to do this more often than Black women and I've seen Black men encourage Black women to wait for their "Black prince" while they, the Black men date whomever they want to. Sometimes it's not about being attracted to a certain type; sometimes it's about fear of being attracted to a different type. But I do agree that in order for Sherri to find a healthy man, she needs to do some work on herself. Sherri kind of reminded me of Star Jones and that nonsense she spouted when saying what she wanted in a man. The first thing Star demanded was that he "work on Wall Street," nothing about character or morals; that was the first thing on her list. No wonder she got divorced, and I think Sherri's the same; the first thing she wants in a man has zero to do with character.
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Post by divasahm on Jul 13, 2014 11:01:53 GMT -4
Sometimes it's not about being attracted to a certain type; sometimes it's about fear of being attracted to a different type. This. I know several older people who have been attracted to different races, but who were born into segregation and lived through the racial upheaval of the mid-20th century. They remember the horrible treatment that mixed-race couples endured. Some of that fear has trickled down to younger generations--my hometown in east Texas is still very segregated when it comes to love and marriage...
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Post by discoprincess on Jul 13, 2014 20:22:01 GMT -4
Sherri kind of reminded me of Star Jones and that nonsense she spouted when saying what she wanted in a man. The first thing Star demanded was that he "work on Wall Street," nothing about character or morals; that was the first thing on her list. No wonder she got divorced, and I think Sherri's the same; the first thing she wants in a man has zero to do with character. At least if Sherri had married someone who worked on Wall Street, maybe the guy wouldn't be making such a transparent attempt at a smash and grab on Sherri's money during the divorce Star probably meant she wanted a man who could support himself and not rely on her money (i.e. no "scrubs"). Of course a man's character should also be an important consideration.
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codert
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Post by codert on Jul 13, 2014 22:13:37 GMT -4
Is there like a surrogate contract? If there is and they both signed it......they both should be responsible. poor baby.
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Foo
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Post by Foo on Jul 14, 2014 13:45:49 GMT -4
OT but did Al Reynolds, Star Jones' ex-husband, ever come out as gay?
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Post by Auroranorth on Jul 14, 2014 14:36:46 GMT -4
No. It's generally rumored but there's no solid confirmation.
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