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Post by margojata on Oct 12, 2010 20:13:12 GMT -4
I think it'd be difficult for some people to stay in a marriage if there is no more romantic love left, especially if you're relatively young. That's why I'm not getting married, 'cause I'm one of those people. I think you have to work at romantic love, because it can turn into a brother/sister thing for just about everyone if you don't make the effort. I don't know...I guess I'm just tired of seeing divorce left and right. It just feels so easy to divorce now, it's depressing me and making me pessimistic about my own future I guess. Nevermind, this isn't about me. I hope they both can be friends and actually mean it for the sake of their kid. Oh no, say it - it's perfectly reasonable. And yeah, marriage can be really cyclical - you have to work at it and sometimes wait it out and see if it gets better (I've been married forever - sometimes it does get really good again). Hollywood pisses me off because they run to divorce, new partners, new families. There's nothing wrong with concentrating on your child for a while. No rumors with these two (yet)... I guess I'm mostly reacting to Courteney and David/Laura and Ben. As for these two - you were madly in love a mere two years ago (I would assume so - with the baby and all), and now it's done?
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Post by Margo on Oct 12, 2010 20:25:45 GMT -4
As for these two - you were madly in love a mere two years ago (I would assume so - with the baby and all), and now it's done? Yeah, that's how I feel too. It seems like just yesterday she was talking about having more kids together. This separation seems very sudden.
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Post by angelaudie on Oct 12, 2010 20:28:59 GMT -4
This split actually bums me out because they did seem extremely happy. Though the sources are stressing neither are making a move to file for divorce so it's possible they are trying to see if things can be worked out. Sometimes people do need time apart in order work through issues.
Yeah, I think this is a nice way of saying the spark is gone and they aren't having sex. I certainly think your significant other should be your friend (some would even argue your partner is really your best friend) but I also think you should want to have sex with your partner as well. Generally when people say, "We're more like friends than husband and wife," they mean the desire they once had for each other is gone.
And yes so far they are handling their separation with more class and dignity than David Arquette is handling his.
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Post by HotLips on Oct 12, 2010 20:32:37 GMT -4
I think the next guy she hooks up with is going to be super studly and/or rich & powerful. The big part of Jordan's appeal was that he is normal, but freaks aren't happy with "normal" for very long. Exactly. I think Christina got involved with him because she'd been in a lot of bad relationships and a nice, normal guy was appealing at the time. Fast forward however many years and nice & normal turns into dull & boring. I predict Christina will have a new boyfriend very quickly.
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Post by ohnoshedidnt on Oct 12, 2010 21:27:47 GMT -4
Or girlfriend.
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Post by JDub on Oct 12, 2010 22:02:47 GMT -4
I'm really curious to know how long they were having problems before the separation. I definitely think people should be making sure they've actually tried their hardest to make the marriage work before deciding to call it quits. It just seems to me that a lot of these people divorcing after a couple of years either hit their first rough patch in the marriage and gave up because they don't want to work at it, or just married the wrong person from the get go. It's always intriguing to me to see a couple that seemed pretty solid before a child end up splitting only a year or two after the kid is born.
Have there been any Hollywood marriages that survived a legal separation? Everyone seems to end up divorced a couple of years later. I think it's harder to go back once you've readjusted to being on your own again. You move on. Easier to keep moving on. The only couple I can think of off the top of my head that are still together after a separation are Chris Rock and his wife---and Chris seems pretty miserable. They got back together after 9/11 and had their first daughter, and I think they're only staying together for their kids.
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Post by sugarhigh on Oct 12, 2010 22:31:16 GMT -4
Pink and her husband were separated for awhile but got back together.
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Post by Ginger on Oct 12, 2010 22:31:44 GMT -4
I once read that year 3 and year 5 of a marriage are when a huge number of divorces take place. If you can make it beyond that you've got a good chance of making it. I think Year 3 is when people realize they married the wrong person and want to get out before they invest more time. Year 5 is when people realize that not only did they marry the wrong person, but having a kid (or two) made it worse.
And what's funny is that years 3 & 5 are danger zones regardless of how long you dated before you got married. People who dated for a year before they got married follow the same arc as people who dated for 10 years.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2010 22:35:06 GMT -4
Tea Leoni and David Duchovny were separated during his rehab thing, and they managed to work everything out and are still together. So it can happen. It's rare, but it happens.
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Post by cabbagekid on Oct 12, 2010 22:36:00 GMT -4
I once read that year 3 and year 5 of a marriage are when a huge number of divorces take place. If you can make it beyond that you've got a good chance of making it. I think Year 3 is when people realize they married the wrong person and want to get out before they invest more time. Year 5 is when people realize that not only did they marry the wrong person, but having a kid (or two) made it worse. And what's funny is that years 3 & 5 are danger zones regardless of how long you dated before you got married. People who dated for a year before they got married follow the same arc as people who dated for 10 years. That's really interesting! I always used to think most people got divorced during the 7-year itch. Is it sad that when my friend informed me of Christina's separation, all I could think was, "WOW! Does this mean she'll make another CD like Stripped?!?"
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