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Post by batmom on Feb 28, 2007 15:36:56 GMT -4
I really believe that some of the parents call because there's a part of them that wants to be told that there's nothing that can be done; that their children's behaviour is not their fault. That's why they're so resistant to Jo or the nanny's advice - if they try it and it works then it means that they haven't been doing it right so far. It's much easier on the ego to have problem children than to be a problem parent.
Really well said Mugsy.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2007 15:51:37 GMT -4
Yep, I agree too, Mugsy.
I think that alot of the parents seem to have marital problems, I don't know if the kids are causing the marital problems, or vice versa, it is kinda a chicken and egg scenario. They are seldom on the page regarding their kids and some are openly hostile to each other. So why are they so shocked when they end up with hostile kids?
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Post by bklynred on Feb 28, 2007 15:59:17 GMT -4
Maybe it's just a matter of having an outsider point out the obvious? A lot of these couples are in such a horrible rut... It's too bad that family members couldn't convince them to do family therapy (and honestly they might have and gotten too riled up or offended by the notion). So maybe it's a situation of "We'll go on tv and prove we're normal, Junior's just a little hyper" and then they're shocked into the reality of their situations.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2007 15:03:35 GMT -4
I love Jo on Supernanny, and I quote her all the time: Yoh chy-od is sleeping the coh-nah! It's noht noh-mal! It's noht roit!
I'm not such a fan of Nanny 911 because I think they spend too much of the hour-long show showing us how awful the kids/parents are, and not enough time showing us the techniques and results. It's much more car-crashy and less learn-y.
Yay for being articulate!
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Post by hobocamp on Mar 1, 2007 15:56:11 GMT -4
I can't remember which one of the Nanny shows it was, but my favorite was the mother with three or four little hellions, a fuckwit husband, and a freakin' daycare that she was running out of her home. And her children were bullying and beating up on the daycare kids. Hopefully some childwelfare agency saw that ep and yanked her license.
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Post by grumpygirl on Mar 1, 2007 16:15:57 GMT -4
I can't remember which one of the Nanny shows it was, but my favorite was the mother with three or four little hellions, a fuckwit husband, and a freakin' daycare that she was running out of her home. And her children were bullying and beating up on the daycare kids. Hopefully some childwelfare agency saw that ep and yanked her license. OMG, so she can't control her own little house apes and she keeps other people's children for her own kids to beat on? Great... Did the nanny walk out? One of my CAH-RAZ-Y relatives ran a daycare for a while until she bit one of the kids and got her license yanked. Yeah, she bit the kid. She married into the family, okay? |
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Post by hobocamp on Mar 1, 2007 16:31:18 GMT -4
I can't remember which one of the Nanny shows it was, but my favorite was the mother with three or four little hellions, a fuckwit husband, and a freakin' daycare that she was running out of her home. And her children were bullying and beating up on the daycare kids. Hopefully some childwelfare agency saw that ep and yanked her license. OMG, so she can't control her own little house apes and she keeps other people's children for her own kids to beat on? Great... Did the nanny walk out? One of my CAH-RAZ-Y relatives ran a daycare for a while until she bit one of the kids and got her license yanked. Yeah, she bit the kid. She married into the family, okay? She bit a child? Christ. Amazingly it took about 6 minutes for the nanny to calm down the bully kids and talk about sharing, not terrorizing other children, and respecting people. After that, they shaped up (for the cameras anyway...) pretty quickly. |
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Post by ivy on Mar 1, 2007 22:12:23 GMT -4
Amazingly it took about 6 minutes for the nanny to calm down the bully kids and talk about sharing, not terrorizing other children, and respecting people. After that, they shaped up (for the cameras anyway...) pretty quickly. That happens so often. IMO a lot of these brats actually wouldn't be so bad if they could get their parents' attention in a positive way, like when the nannies talk to them without whining or yelling, explain why their behavior is wrong, and ask them questions like, "What made you so angry today? Tell me about it." The parents never do this, all they do is scream and put the kids in time outs and just generally act like monkey trainers who can't control their monkeys. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2007 13:57:28 GMT -4
I agree. I don't particularly like children, which is why I don't have any myself, but most of the families on these shows seem to have gotten into this rut where no one is communicating. The kid will whine, the mom or dad will say "stop whining or you're getting a time out!" and nothing gets accomplished until the nanny comes in and says (to the child) "No more whining. Use your words! We want to hear you" and (to the parents) "Listen to them! They're trying to tell you something!"
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2007 14:55:40 GMT -4
But are we not in the age when everyone wants everything? Couples want children yet don't want to give up things they want to do. I think what these shows point out is that children take time. You can't just push them in front of a TV or send them to their rooms. Children are time consuming and I think alot of these parents are surprised by how much.
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