Celebrity Weddings

[batmom]

I was thinking that the not in the article about when he separated from his wife was so unnecessary. Alzheimers stole his wife a long time ago. Don't get judgy.

[Ladybug]

Aug 11, 2021 12:53:50 GMT -4 Mutagen said:

I'm suspending my usual pessimism about celeb marriage to say I'm really happy for them. I recall reading this interview with Alfred Molina in which he touched on his situation with his then-wife Jill and her Alzheimer's; some commenters on ONTD got judgy about the timeline of the new relationship, but it sounds like Jill had been in severe decline for quite a while. Really hope the best for him and his new wife going forward.

I think the "maybe they have an arrangement" excuse is a little over used with regards to celebrity marriages and infidelity, but in this case, I think his wife probably told him to live his life when she didn't know him anymore. My stepmom had Alzheimer's and after she had to live in a memory care facility my dad briefly dated another woman. He took care of my stepmom as long as he could until she needed more than he could provide, and he visited her daily. So, I am sympathetic and not judgy of Alfred and Jennifer. She probably was a big support to him during a very difficult time.

[Auroranorth]

Jill was diagnosed back in 2013, and she'd been in a special care facility for quite a while as things deteriorated, so I don't think it's wrong that he found companionship with someone else. He stayed with Jill till the end.

[tiggertoo]

My niece’s grandfather is in that situation. His wife is long gone to Alzheimer’s but her body continues. He started seeing another woman whose husband was also lost to Alzheimer’s. Both families embraced them as a couple and when grandfather’s girlfriend’s husband died, he attended the funeral.

Much happiness to Alfred Molina!

[ahah]

I get annoyed when people get judgey over a spouse moving on after a long illness. What people forget is that for the spouse, the grieving process begins before death. For friends and loved ones surrounding them, it can't. They all have to hold out hope for a miracle as a way of supporting the sick person and the spouse. But the spouse is sitting in meetings with doctors having reality thrown at them non stop, and that starts the grieving process.

[tanyak]

This came up a couple of years ago with B. Smith before she passed away. This Washington Post story sort of lays it all out. It's probably behind a paywall, but there were a lot of reasons folks weren't having it:

1. The husband moved the girlfriend into the house where B. was still living.
2. B. had been the breadwinner and folks thought the husband and step-daughter were taking advantage of her coins. B. had no biological children.
3. The girlfriend was white. (A Black woman would not have moved into another woman's house while she was there, was a common refrain.)

I came away with mixed feelings. Of course there was a lot of judginess. ("When you're married, you're married!") But my takeaway is that B. was very deeply into the throws of Alzheimer's and I understand his need for companionship. I did, however, side eye him moving the woman into the house. I need to go back and read the story, but the husband's litany of reasons didn't sit well with me, from what I can recall.

[Auroranorth]

I read that story a while back and agree, it felt really sketchy. Having the GF move in was weird. I certainly wouldn't have done it.

[ikmccall]

Uzo Aduba got married a year ago, to a filmmaker, but only announced it recently.

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Malala Yousafzai got married today
Congratulations to her and her husband Asser and wishing happiness for both.

[Ripley]

Nov 9, 2021 18:20:29 GMT -4 @fitz said:

Malala Yousafzai got married today
Congratulations to her and her husband Asser and wishing happiness for both.

She looks beautiful. I wish both of them well.