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Post by laurenj on Sept 20, 2017 15:51:19 GMT -4
laurenj, I would not lend those vintage books! However, since it is family, I’d probably buy used paperback versions to “lend”, that way I wouldn’t care if I never got them back. You know, we didn’t have a lot of money when I was growing up so we were taught to take care of our things. These days, it seems as if people have no respect for other people’s property. . . or even their own. They just think, “Eh, so what. I’ll just buy another one.” Everything is disposable. They don't make them in cheap versions, these are from the 1930s and out of print for a long time. I do have extras of the first few books in the series so I'm probably just going to give those to her, but I'm pretty sure I gave her extras of those same books years ago and have no idea where those ended up. The other issue is that she has a lot of kids, some very young who are still in the "must rip/draw on every piece of paper I see" stage and things end up getting wrecked that way if they don't get donated. |
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Post by Ginger on Sept 20, 2017 16:26:31 GMT -4
I assume when I lend a book or a DVD that I'm not getting it back. It's a donation. It removes a lot of resentment from the process - if I get it back, it's a pleasant surprise. But if it's something I really value that I want back, I'm not giving it away. You know, we didn’t have a lot of money when I was growing up so we were taught to take care of our things. These days, it seems as if people have no respect for other people’s property. . . or even their own. They just think, “Eh, so what. I’ll just buy another one.” Everything is disposable. In high school a friend lent me a paperback and flipped out when I returned it to her with creases on the spine. Apparently Miss Priss treats her paperbacks like museum pieces and never opens them all the way so the spine won't get creased. I didn't even know it was possible to read a book that way! So by someone else's standards, I am a delinquent borrower with no respect for nice things. (I didn't rip the cover off or write on it though.) |
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Post by Carolinian on Sept 20, 2017 18:00:14 GMT -4
A former friend sweet talked me into loaning her a costume book. I explained that it was a loan and I expected to get it back. After a couple of polite requests I sent her an amazon link to purchase a replacement- the original price was under $20 but because it was out of print and desirable a replacement book cost $125 on the secondhand market. I got my copy back a few days late and she hasn't spoken to me since. Winning!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2017 21:49:14 GMT -4
I don't loan books, dvds, or games. If you like something of mine, I will just buy you another copy so you can keep it. It makes life much easier on that front for me.
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Post by Ginger on Sept 21, 2017 16:27:11 GMT -4
I had an old friend contact me on Facebook after 20 years. She said she felt guilty because she borrowed a book from me and never returned it, but she still has the book and would be happy to give it to me. I had no recollection of the book and only a vague recollection of the friend.
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Post by chonies on Sept 24, 2017 11:45:29 GMT -4
This sounds like the premise of a podcast. "Welcome to another episode of 'And You Are', the podcast where we explore the stories of vague connections on social media, the things they try to return, and whether we bother to remember them. Sponsored by MeUndies and Blue Apron."
It probably already exists, though. It sounds like Starlee Kine's Mystery Show, which I would like more episodes of.
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Post by Ginger on Feb 15, 2018 11:30:04 GMT -4
I am officially sick of food servers promoting themselves as the most ill-treated segment of the workforce and the constant public complaining and shaming they engage in. I'm through with it. Today's story is the Outback Steakhouse server who was fired because she went on Facebook and shamed a specific customer for not leaving her a tip on a to-go order. I heard her on the radio this morning indignantly stating that 15% is the standard tip on both eat-in and take-out food, which is simply not true and nobody in the media is challenging that. The standard tip on takeout food you pick up at a counter is $0, or some cash in a tip jar if you feel it's warranted. I think more and more people do leave tips on takeout because the blank line for the tip on the credit card slip makes them think they are supposed to. And that's fine. (I usually tip about 10% when I pick up takeout. The last time I picked up a pizza, the little computer screen gave tip options, and the lowest was 15%. NO WAY! Sorry, if that's the only option, then no tip. I rearranged my afternoon, drove down to the pizza place, waited, and all in all spent a good chunk of my own time to get that pizza. I'm not going to give someone 15% for handing me a box. That's why I didn't get it delivered.) In this particular case, it was a large order of $735 and I think most people would agree that preparation of such a large order would warrant a tip. This server said she spent most of her day (I don't believe that, but whatever) packing up the order and sacrificed other tips, so I can agree that sucks for her, but I think this is a matter she should have addressed with her boss. It's the entitlement here drives me crazy. Certainly this girl deserved to be fired for posting about it on social media, which is prohibited for Outback employees. But I've come to think that the reason why servers get so much attention for their plight is because it's a job often taken on by young or middle class white people. There are far more terrible jobs that are mainly performed by non-whites. They get paid horribly and get no tips, and I don't hear anyone advocating for them ever. Instead, I'm supposed to be outraged every time some young, middle-class kid doesn't like the tip total they got at the end of their shift. ETA: And shortly after I typed this, I overheard my Work Nemesis drastically undertip the delivery guy who just delivered catering. It's at least $300 worth of food and I heard her tell them to add $10 for tip. Company policy is 10% for delivery, not $10. Work Nemesis is an idiot. |
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Post by batmom on Feb 15, 2018 13:50:00 GMT -4
I can't remember where I read this but the people in airports who ferry people around in wheelchairs/otherwise help patrons are not paid minimum wage because it is assumed that they get tips. But that most people don't know that or assume that it's a service of the airline so they often don't get the tips. And they very often tend to be people of colour. A perfect example of another class of job that gets screwed.
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Post by seat6 on Feb 15, 2018 15:57:37 GMT -4
I can't remember where I read this but the people in airports who ferry people around in wheelchairs/otherwise help patrons are not paid minimum wage because it is assumed that they get tips. But that most people don't know that or assume that it's a service of the airline so they often don't get the tips. And they very often tend to be people of colour. A perfect example of another class of job that gets screwed. Seriously? It never even occurred to me that those people should be tipped. I don't think very many people do. I've never witnessed anyone tipping them. Now I feel guilty, but I guess I can blame it on my grandfather. He's the one who actually needed the little golf cart. |
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Post by riosamba on Feb 15, 2018 19:35:00 GMT -4
Hotel housekeepers deal with all kinds of nastiness, are frequently assaulted, and there's trafficking in the industry too. I always leave the most generous tip I can even though I'm a low maintenance guest. I don't know, I guess I have a certain level of sympathy for anyone who is in a low level customer service position because so many people are incredibly rude to them.
Is Work Nemesis cheap or can she not do math, or both? Maybe someone should give her some word problems. "If sound travels at 343 m/s and you are eating a Mega size bag of Doritos, how much soap will it take to wash out Ginger's ears. Assume the soap is a non-Newtonian fluid."
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