Carolina
Sloane Ranger
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Post by Carolina on Aug 27, 2015 16:49:42 GMT -4
I think she's a young person with emotional problems, maybe mental health issues, having typical teenage conflict with a parent, and she has an out. She can go to another parent for support. The problem is that her bio mom, as well intentioned and loving as she may be, really doesn't know Chelsea or her history, and sees Rosie as an adversary and not a partner in parenting. She feels that she lost Chelsea and is probably thrilled the girl "chose" her over Rosie. All of this. Plus, there's a good chance that Chelsea's spent years romanticizing her bio mom. She's probably in for a rude awakening. I'm sure Rosie wasn't a perfect parent, but judging by the Daily Fail article from when Chelsea was missing, bio mom sounds like a piece of work.
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Nysha
Blueblood
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Post by Nysha on Aug 28, 2015 0:46:35 GMT -4
She's an adult and she has a right to those documents. Yes, she can get them, but imo, Rosie is keeping them as a punitive measure b/c she's mad and hurt by Chelsea's behavior.
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Post by MrsOldManBalls on Aug 28, 2015 8:13:51 GMT -4
She's an adult and she has a right to those documents. Yes, she can get them, but imo, Rosie is keeping them as a punitive measure b/c she's mad and hurt by Chelsea's behavior. I think that there is a lot of hurt about a lot of things going on, and I hope they can work through it all.
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May 4, 2024 1:17:02 GMT -4
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2015 11:35:49 GMT -4
Based on my own experience with my birth father, I think Chelsea is in for a rude awakening. Maybe her birth mother has herself together (I have not read anything about her), but there is such a complex set of emotions around birth parents for adopted children and that relationship has to be negotiated with maturity and a healthy attitude from all parties involved.
I always hoped that my bio dad was an intelligent, compassionate person instead he was a lying, alcoholic NATIONALIST and a petty criminal -- and it was a major disappointment, but I had a great support system in my mom and adopted dad and was able to develop a healthy acceptance of the situation. I hope Chelsea can handle all of this.
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Post by chitowngirl on Aug 28, 2015 16:55:54 GMT -4
You know how a lot of kids go through that phase where they think they're adopted and say "my real mom would let me do that"? Perhaps that is Chelsea's mindset except she was adopted, so she went where she thinks the grass is greener.
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greekone
Landed Gentry
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Apr 25, 2015 14:49:08 GMT -4
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Post by greekone on Aug 28, 2015 18:11:42 GMT -4
All of this. Plus, there's a good chance that Chelsea's spent years romanticizing her bio mom. She's probably in for a rude awakening. I'm sure Rosie wasn't a perfect parent, but judging by the Daily Fail article from when Chelsea was missing, bio mom sounds like a piece of work. I once saw an interview with Julia Roberts who said something to the effect that her father will always remain perfect in her eyes because he passed away when she was 9 years old and being so young she never saw him as a human with any type of flaws whatsoever. I'm sure if he had lived to see Julia grow up, chances are pretty good that he would have disappointed her at some point as she grew into adulthood. (I like to think he would have told her to cut the shit after the "A Low Vera" t-shirt incident). Back on topic though, Chelsea will now be able to see her bio mother as she truly is and I'm sure the romanticizing will diminish greatly. Not that her bio mom is bad, but she is a human being with character defects just as we all are.
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Post by chiqui on Aug 29, 2015 12:56:46 GMT -4
This. No wonder Chelsea was seeking a way out. Even if her birth mom is living in humble circumstances, as long as she's healthy and there for her young-adult daughter, giving her the support she needs, that beats Hollywood glamour and wealth. More info about the birth mom I don't feel sorry for Rosie at all. I think a significant part of her reaction to this is the implication she has not been a good parent to Chelsea (and by extension her other kids.) I would wager there is some truth in this. She has been trying, desperately hard, for years, with spouse after spouse and child after child to have that kind of fantasy happy large family life and it just has not worked for her. I would think at some point she would have woken up and given up on the dream for the sake of the kids; they don't deserve that chaos and instability.
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Post by eclair on Aug 29, 2015 19:00:43 GMT -4
OT: I know someone who met her birth father once. He was wearing a hat that said,"Free Mustache Rides". That's all she has to say about him.
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Post by lea1977 on Aug 29, 2015 19:28:15 GMT -4
I hope that Chelsea left her therapy dog at home, no need to bring that innocent animal into this difficult situation.
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Post by MrsOldManBalls on Aug 30, 2015 8:23:04 GMT -4
I hope that Chelsea left her therapy dog at home, no need to bring that innocent animal into this difficult situation. But I do hope she brought her meds.
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