Owen Wilson

[prisma]

This especially infuriates me considering the legal assault on abortion. Just read this this morning:

The Supreme Court has rejected a challenge to a Kentucky’s anti-abortion ultrasound law. The law requires doctors to perform ultrasounds, describe fetuses in detail, and play the sound of fetal heartbeats before performing abortions. Patients are not allowed to opt out.

So this is what women go through but a man can be presented with a fully formed human being and say, “Nah.”

[Nysha]

While I think Wilson is a lowlife for not wanting to be involved in his child's life, I also don't think very highly of the mother for giving an interview trashing her daughter's father. I hope she isn't this vocal to her little girl about this.

[cubanitafresca]

ugh, this story pushes all kinds of buttons for me ..... Intellectually, if we women have absolute right to terminate a pregnancy regardless of what the guy wants, shouldn't they have the right to walk away emotionally from a child they didn't want and stated clearly beforehand? To Owen's credit he's provided generously for the child, that mom will be able to be a full-time stay at home mom and a lifestyle equivalent to what it would have with her dad.

It's sad that the child doesn't have a relationship with her father but the mom knew this going into it. I was in a similar situation (sans the $$) I considered it my responsibility to make sure my daughter had a good male role model in her life. It's part of the job description when you decide to be a single mother. And speaking as a child of divorce - I think an inconsistent sporadic father is a lot harder on a kid than one you've never known. My dad popping in and out of my life fucked me up way more than my daughter's non-existent one seems too. (Yes I'm a cliche, whatever)

There's also a possibility that there's a good reason for him choosing to stay out of the picture. Maybe he feels with his mental health issues he can't handle it- maybe it's taking all he has to be involved with the two he's got, maybe the relationship with the mom is detrimental to his mental health - considering she's blabbing to the news - that might be an issue.

And it's early yet. He wouldn't be the first man that swears he doesn't want anything to do with a child - and changes his mind within the first year or two.

she's an adorable little girl that's for sure.

[lpatrice]

I think it's clear that these two were never in a traditional relationship. They were fuck buddies. I've seen this story play out before. More than likely she wanted more and he was like nope. He probably made it clear he didn't want kids - though he should have done more on his end to prevent getting some woman pregnant. He's providing handsomely for the kid and hopefully mom's friends and family have stepped up and she'll have plenty of positive role models.

I am currently mentoring someone who is dealing with the trauma of having her dad in and out of her life like a revolving door. The constant disappointment, the ups, and downs, etc - sometimes its almost better for a parent that doesn't want to parent to provide financial support and just stay the fuck away.

[lae]

As someone who has a dad that doesn’t acknowledge her but has other children he does acknowledge, I think Owen Wilson is a shitty person and I feel badly for his daughter. While it’s good that he is financially providing for her (I’m sure he’s only doing it because he’s being forced too), the fact that he is picking and choosing who he wants to be a father to says a lot about him as a person and none of it is good.

[Ginger]

I'm sorry to hear that, lae. Everyone's personal experiences really color how they view this.

May 29, 2005 13:06:38 GMT -4 lpatrice said:

I am currently mentoring someone who is dealing with the trauma of having her dad in and out of her life like a revolving door. The constant disappointment, the ups, and downs, etc - sometimes its almost better for a parent that doesn't want to parent to provide financial support and just stay the fuck away.

I find it interesting that so many people posit this as an either/or - be a bad parent or just stay away. There is also a third option: Parent doesn't want to parent, but steps up and puts in the effort to do a reasonably good job at it anyway. As Owen is a parent to another child, it doesn't seem like he's incapable of it.

[Mutagen]

Dec 30, 2019 10:54:23 GMT -4 Ginger said:

There is also a third option: Parent doesn't want to parent, but steps up and puts in the effort to do a reasonably good job at it anyway.

AKA what mothers are expected to do no matter what.

[lae]

Dec 30, 2019 10:58:43 GMT -4 Mutagen said:

Dec 30, 2019 10:54:23 GMT -4 Ginger said:

There is also a third option: Parent doesn't want to parent, but steps up and puts in the effort to do a reasonably good job at it anyway.

AKA what mothers are expected to do no matter what.

This. The double standard is amazing to me.

[prisma]

Dec 30, 2019 13:16:54 GMT -4 lae said:

Dec 30, 2019 10:58:43 GMT -4 Mutagen said:

AKA what mothers are expected to do no matter what.

This. The double standard is amazing to me.

And if he didn't want to get stuck with a lifetime connection to a girlfriend he wasn't serious about, he could have taken responsibility for birth control. I don't know why men get a free pass on that one. Owen seems like he would have been a great candidate for a vasectomy. It's a relatively simple procedure.

[Deleted]

But that's not what he waaants. A child is also not what he waaaants. Don't you get how unpleasant all of this is for him? People keep suggesting he do things he Doesn't. Want. To. Do.

Many of us know this phenomenon as "life" but apparently things work a little differently when you're Mr. Wilson.