Sandra Bullock

[johnboysmole]

They want awful, sordid, tragic details like how you accidentally dropped your uterus in the wood-chipper.

Ha! Thank you beniciosgal, you've provided me with a great answer for when people grill me about not having kids. I almost can't wait until I'm in my 40s because at that point, people won't try to talk me into having kids. Oy. So annoying.

I can certainly see why her comments are offensive, but I'm sure in her heart of hearts, she doesn't think people who are parents are selfish, that would mean her own parents are selfish. I just don't believe she meant it so literally. Or maybe it was just inherant asshattedness on her part. I don't know, but I love her to pieces nevertheless.

[quickychick]

So, ze girl has gotten married.


Regarding the whole childfree comments: I'd bet Sandy used the word "selfish" as a response to many who call childfree people selfish for NOT having children. Either choice--kids or no kids--is up to the individual and can be described as a selfish (for the good of, or chiefly concerned with, one's self) act. In this case, the stigma that has always been assigned to the word 'selfish' has to be set aside and the non-biased definition should be taken literally.

[borborygmus]

Well, best of luck to Sandy. As JJ's 3rd wife, she will no doubt need some luck. I've never seen his show, but in pictures he just skeeves me out, big time.

[divasahm]

I guess the whole motherhood debate is moot now--Sandy's now stepmom to three.

Best of luck to them--hope to see them around Austin.

[Deleted]

I thought she would never get married.

It's cool that she and Regina King are friends.

[americanchai]

Believe it or not, I think this marriage might stick - yeah, Sandra has generally not had a lot of luck with men, but maybe she wasn't that excited about the bland, vanilla guys she was dating before and Jesse'll keep her on her toes. Jesse, on the other hand, probably never got past the pair of boobs attached to whatever wife-unit he was with at the time to make sense of why he married in the first place with his first two wives. With Sandra, we can say that he's probably genuinely attracted to her personality because she's certainly not in the porn star mold.

I give them forever...until the porn tape with him in a threesome with Charlie Sheen and Pamela Anderson snorting coke off of Andy Dick's ass comes out...four years.

[magazinewhore]

I'm happy for her. As a single, childless 35 year old, I can't help but like her and her spawning is selfish comment. I agree with sunnyhorses's analysis of her comments. To some degree, having children is selfish.

Anyway, good for her. With people like Jho out there, I can't muster any dislike for Sandy.

[Ginger]

It'll be interesting to see how this marriage turns out. She's said so many strange things in the past. Like she used to literally wear shoes to bed with her boyfriends so she could get up and run out in the middle of the night if she needed to. She's said her ideas of marriage were all really scary and unpleasant, and now with this "I didn't feel I deserved to be treated well" I think she's got some serious issues.

As for Jesse, I read that he runs some big charity program as part of his work, so that made me think he must be a good guy. But I don't care for his tattoos. A few are alright, but I don't like that totally-covered look he has on his arms.

As for Sandra's "it's selfish to have children when there are so many who need adopting" comments, I find that kind of annoying. While it might be technically true, if she's going to go around getting after people for having children, why doesn't she point the finger at the people who are creating all those children who need adopting? Why doesn't she say, "it's really selfish to have children when you can't take care of them and will have to put them up for adoption?" It just seems unnecessary to attack people for wanting to make families.

[spinsterliz]

ginger said:

As for Sandra's "it's selfish to have children when there are so many who need adopting" comments

Has anyone ever told Sandra that it's usually very, very expensive to adopt a child? We're talking thousands and thousands of dollars. Making your own, however, is free. Maybe somebody ought to remind Sandra that not everyone is a multi-millionaire like she is.

The funny thing is, I don't totally disagree with her comment, because yes, there are a lot of kids who need to be adopted and it would be nice if more of them got homes. But she was totally wrong to make it sound like the only reason people don't (can't) adopt is because they are selfish.

[Oxynia]

SpisterLiz, that was exactly my reaction when a (former) friend of mine told me that my husband and I were selfish because we had a child of our own instead of adopting.

I do realize there are lots of unwantef kids in the world and if we had been in a financial position to adopt, we would have done it. But we weren't, so we didn't. No-one should judge such a personal decision, anyway.