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Post by Auroranorth on Dec 31, 2017 11:08:23 GMT -4
For someone complaining about being judged, she sure did a lot of judging there. Also, let's stop with the bragging about not having time to take a shower or engage in any self care which only serves to perpetuate the idea that women are society's designated martyrs who must sacrifice every fiber of their being for their offspring. That thought process empowers the patriarchy, not women. Agreed. If a manicure makes you feel good about yourself, then why should that be a bad thing? And if you legitimately don't have time to take a shower, then that is a problem and not something you should be humblebragging about! |
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Post by Ginger on Dec 31, 2017 11:37:30 GMT -4
The thing is, Mayim said she felt out of place but never said how that was the fault of the other mothers. Did one of them say something to her about her lack of manicure? Or did she just see someone with a manicure and decide "these are not my people"? Because that's all on her if she can't interact with a woman with a manicure without deciding they have nothing in common.
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Post by tanyak on Dec 31, 2017 12:26:59 GMT -4
Also, let's stop with the bragging about not having time to take a shower or engage in any self care which only serves to perpetuate the idea that women are society's designated martyrs who must sacrifice every fiber of their being for their offspring. That thought process empowers the patriarchy, not women. Yes! I have a friend who is just like this. Just the other day, she posted her three-year-old and 18-month-old always look so put together but she looks like something the cat dragged in and she wouldn't have it any other way. And so many of her silly little friends cosigned. It's not a zero-sum game. Your kids can look nice and you can look nice, too. She used to dress cute, but now she always seems to be in T-shirts from her husband's job. Some friends and I – all mothers – were talking about it the other day and we're totally over her "I'm the best mom!" act. |
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Post by wixy on Dec 31, 2017 14:48:48 GMT -4
Ugh I saw her name pop up and just knew she had said something idiotic.
I find all her theories and ideas around women and parenting so disingenuous. She acts as if she's coming from a place of enlightenment and acceptance of all, but everything she spouts is invariably judgemental and humble-braggy.
I really dislike her and I was such a fan when she joined TBBT 😡
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2017 18:07:55 GMT -4
Kirk Cameron is in the news again too for some stupid crap he is spouting about marriage. I tend to view them both in the same light, they each seem to delight in sharing their extreme marriage and parenting views for attention and to shit stir.
Why would I take relationship advice from Mike Seaver and parenting advice from Blossom?
When mine were young, fellow moms on a web board would always brag about how little sleep they got. It was like it was a badge of honor to sleep in two hour stretches for years. I was always like, that's crazy. Yes, you might win the most dedicated mom award but who wins when you fall asleep behind the wheel and run your car off the road? I am really happy to be past that new mom phase.
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Post by azaleaqueen on Dec 31, 2017 20:05:10 GMT -4
I was always prouder of the fact that mine slept pretty much like logs.
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Post by lea1977 on Jan 1, 2018 6:25:23 GMT -4
I think we all start out that way, feeling we are bad mothers if we don't give up everything for our child but most of us very quickly realize that serves no one's best interest including your child's. I listened to my mom and realized that it is important to put down boundaries with your children so everyone stays sane. I still have a friend like that whose children hang on her all day and won't do anything on their own without coming to her and asking for permission, that includes using the bathroom or having a glass of water, but when her husband has the children for the day, they seem to have no problems, getting themselves dressed, making themselves a simple snack and going to the bathroom on their own. He can retile their bathroom in a day while being with their children and she can't even take a shower. Some men seem to be a bit better at putting down boundaries and children seem to have no problems accepting them from a man as well.
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Post by Auroranorth on Jan 1, 2018 20:35:38 GMT -4
Her video reminds me of this piece from a while back. Marissa Jaret Winokur complains about mommy bullies while also being one. Ew. I admit it- if you show up reeking and filthy in public, I'm likely to judge you. Now, if you're a construction worker coming off shift that's one thing, but it sounds like she just can't be bothered. Plus she's being snide about moms who do take pride in their appearance, in a post that's talking about being supportive of other moms. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2018 10:16:20 GMT -4
Her video reminds me of this piece from a while back. Marissa Jaret Winokur complains about mommy bullies while also being one. Ew. I admit it- if you show up reeking and filthy in public, I'm likely to judge you. Now, if you're a construction worker coming off shift that's one thing, but it sounds like she just can't be bothered. Plus she's being snide about moms who do take pride in their appearance, in a post that's talking about being supportive of other moms. Did anyone ever bother to ask what her husband was doing to help out? I looked him up, and he's a writer. Surely, he can take over every now and then so mom can wash and dress and not feel like she can snap at any second. The unhealthy (for both mom and child) martyr mom complex has always existed, but it seems to have gone mainstream with the advent of social media and godawful blogging. MJW was so busy portraying herself as "that mom" she missed a flaw in her story: she had make-up on from the night before. Make-up?! Oh, I see. You are one of THOSE moms who puts on make-up and goes out on the town leaving your children to fend for themselves. The shame! |
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Post by Ginger on Jan 2, 2018 10:52:20 GMT -4
It sounds like both MJW and Mayim are complaining about a very particular type of mother - wealthy LA mothers.
I've got a cousin who is essentially a trophy wife and lives in a rich community and she says she feels pressured to always show up at the school pickup wearing Tory Burch and being well groomed. But at least my cousin is aware enough to know that this is not a universal "mommy" problem. And she doesn't write blogs whining about how the other mothers are bullying her and making her feel bad by being well dressed.
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