Ariana Grande

[Babycakes]

I know next to nothing about Borderline Personality Disorder, so I don't know about the ebbs and flows or intensity of its symptoms. But this weekend's outburst seems like a delayed reaction to the breakup, if that's what the outburst was even really about. I don't know if his IG post was directed at her or not. I thought they both handled the breakup very well initially. It seems really manipulative though if he directed a suicide threat at Ariana, then deleted his IG, and then barred her from SNL when she came to check on him. I can see why she went. She already lost one ex this year, but this situation is so toxic, she needs to avoid him. They both need to be in therapy.

[hellsbells]

Being in any relationship with someone with BPD is difficult. They fear abandonment, and then seem to do everything to make their fears come true. But they also sparkle. One of my closest friends was diagnosed with BPD years ago. While she has no respect for healthy boundaries, she also sparkles. She's funny, witty, irreverent and can make you feel like the most special person around. But she can also be trying, push people away or demand attention that isn't normal in a functioning friendship.

Being in a romantic relationship with her would be impossible for me. Ariana is probably too young to understand the strict boundaries she would need to maintain in order to have a healthy relationship with someone with BPD. And the sparkly fun filled beginning of the relationship (months 1-3) would probably not make that all entirely clear to her.

I feel badly for him. He needs to do work. And I'm sure that he would even mention taking his own life after what happened with her other ex this year is horrifying to her. I think in some ways it's manipulating the conversation. (I didn't see her mocking mental illness at all, though she was mocking the man twitter fight, which may have only happened bc of Kanye's illness.)

She broke up with him. She needs to maintain those boundaries now. Don't muddy the water. That'll only be confusing to him and to her.

[hildymatildy]

I can't do the linky thing on mobile, but Ariana has donated the proceeds of her Atlanta concert to Planned Parenthood.

[prisma]

Here's a link. I'm way out of her demo to be a fan of her music but I have tremendous respect for this.

[Deleted]

I still have no idea about her music but she will always have my respect for everything she did after Manchester and this too has my respect.

[petitesuite]

FINE I'll forget about the donuts thing. Good on her.

[pachengala]

Jun 13, 2019 12:11:20 GMT -4 petitesuite said:

FINE I'll forget about the donuts thing. Good on her.

You are me. I cannot think about her without seeing her lick that damn donut. This does balance the scales, however.

[Spinderella]

Maaaaaaaried!

"They got married," Grande's rep confirms to PEOPLE exclusively. "It was tiny and intimate — less than 20 people. The room was so happy and full of love. The couple and both families couldn't be happier."

TMZ was first to report that the ceremony occurred at the couple's home in Montecito, California. "Both Ari and Dalton love Montecito. They spend a lot of time there," a source tells PEOPLE. "It seems only natural that they would get married at Ari's beautiful and historic house."

I love that she had a small and intimate gathering. It shows that she can do this without all the fanfare and publicity. I hope that it's a long union and years of happiness. *fingers crossed*

[askye]

Oh, that's good news! He seems like a nice guy. I also like that he has his own career and money, and that they were able to keep this so low key.

[Beyle]

I'm debating whether to head over to the Divorce Pool thread.