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Post by margojata on Apr 11, 2012 9:48:50 GMT -4
She's an amazingly strong woman. Marriage, career, baby ... AND you have to get through such a tragedy? I would be crumpled on the floor.
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Post by Mouse on Apr 11, 2012 10:41:13 GMT -4
Here are more details about the case from a February 28 article. Check out the transcript of the CPD's interview with Julia Hudson. She admits that Jennifer warned her not to marry Balfour. And that she kept having sex with him even when he was kicked out of the house. AND he was threatening her and her family the whole time. And of course she didn't call the police, file a restraining order or--God forbid--serve him with divorce papers. Reading the interview made my blood boil. If I were Jennifer, I'd smack her.
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Post by Babycakes on Apr 11, 2012 13:14:45 GMT -4
She's an amazingly strong woman. Marriage, career, baby ... AND you have to get through such a tragedy? I would be crumpled on the floor. I personally think it's all a cover. She doesn't seem remotely happy to me. I really don't believe that she has grieved or come to terms with what happened to her family. I can't properly explain it, or even say that she has a certain look in her eyes, or the quicky engagement and new baby has anything to do with it. Something just seems off about her. She seems like she's holding everything in. Maybe after the trial she will finally "breakdown" and deal with it. But yeah, not buying her being happy or strong image. At all.  |
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Post by deeconsistent on Apr 11, 2012 13:51:56 GMT -4
I'm not sure if I agree with you, but I know what you mean. That's to say, I hope you're not right, but I do wonder how the picture we see can be accurate. If I had to go through what she's been through, I don't know how I'd get through it. On top of that, Id be filled with rage towards my sister. At the same time, it's such an overwhelming tragedy, that she may feel her only choice IS to move on- cherish the good things happening in her life as opposed to dwelling on the bad. Jennifer says she's a deeply spiritual person, so maybe her faith actually is helping to comfort her right now.
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Post by Babycakes on Apr 11, 2012 14:05:14 GMT -4
I don't know what it is, but something isn't right with her. I think it was the image of her comforting Fantasia at her family's funeral. When she was on Oprah, her eyes looked so blank and robotic. I don't think she's allowed herself to feel it yet, if that makes any sense. She's pushing forward and presenting an image, but on the inside I think she's still a mass of rage, anger, pain, and misery. |
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Post by LurkerNan on Apr 11, 2012 15:51:08 GMT -4
It might be easier for her to move on now that's she's got her own family unit - husband (or is he still her fiance?) and child. I would not be surprised to hear someday how she pulled away from her prior family to avoid the pain, and they end up feeling abandoned in the process.
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Post by deeconsistent on Apr 11, 2012 15:57:02 GMT -4
I don't know what it is, but something isn't right with her. I think it was the image of her comforting Fantasia at her family's funeral. When she was on Oprah, her eyes looked so blank and robotic. I don't think she's allowed herself to feel it yet, if that makes any sense. She's pushing forward and presenting an image, but on the inside I think she's still a mass of rage, anger, pain, and misery. I can understand where you're coming from, and I actually find it a little surprising that more isn't made of how quickly she's moved on from such an enormous tragedy. When she's in the news, there's always so much talk about her weight loss and the killings are usually mentioned almost as an afterthought . It sometimes makes me wonder if having most of your family murdered isn't as big of a deal as I thought. Obviously, a lot of that is due to her and her people. I'm sure she doesn't want to be known as the Princess of Gloom and Doom whenever she has to promote something or perform; despite the Oscar, she's not really that well-established and is still building her career. I feel like I'd go catatonic if I lost so much of my family at once, so I'm not really sure what to make of her. Sometimes my heart breaks for her, other times I admire how she's been able to move on. |
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Post by Mouse on Apr 11, 2012 16:40:02 GMT -4
It might be easier for her to move on now that's she's got her own family unit - husband (or is he still her fiance?) and child. I would not be surprised to hear someday how she pulled away from her prior family to avoid the pain, and they end up feeling abandoned in the process. That's an excellent point. Still, if Jennifer did that, I couldn't blame her for it. Suffice it to say that her late nephew's father smeared her a couple of years after the murders. He claimed she was (no joke) a Freemason and said he'd heard rumors she "sacrificed some things to get to where she's at." And he was filmed doing this in front of the Hudson family home. Jennifer may not feel she can totally trust people from her past anymore. I don't know if she has other surviving siblings besides the sister, but she may be wary of turning to anyone for support. |
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Post by belseta on Apr 11, 2012 17:25:57 GMT -4
I was ashamed for the way I felt and have never mentioned it before, but I also noticed how Jennifer Hudson seemed to have recovered just a little too fast. I remember her being on the red carpet at an awards show and couldn't believe how radiant she looked. My goodness, rest her nephew's precious little soul, but just the thought of what was done to that little boy that she loved would have messed me up for a long time. So shame on me for saying this, but my only speculation is that it could be that she has moved on from that life and is living in a fairy tale world now. She's an Oscar winner and associates with the rich and famous, amid a life of luxury and wealth, so I'm not saying it didn't hurt her, but her feelings just might not be like they would be, if she were NOT rich and famous. I say that because I have heard of other celebrities suffer terrible tradgedies that would totally destroy the average human for awhile, but would soon see them out and about, back to work and looking like nothing ever happened. An example would be many years ago when I was a fan of the TV show Dallas, and I remember Patrick Duffy's parents (who they say he was close too) owned a bar/restaurant establishment in their hometown, and were both shot to death and robbed. Before I knew it, Patrick was out looking as normal as ever. I could be wrong, but ever since then, I attribute many a celebrities quick recovery due to the different kind of world that they live in.  |
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Post by chiquita on Apr 11, 2012 17:31:49 GMT -4
I'm shocked at how many people are judging Jennifer Hudson (and now Patrick Duffy) for not living like hermits. People die. It's a fact of life. In their cases, it was murders, which is far more shocking, but what are they supposed to do? Sit in their homes and do nothing but grieve for the rest of their lives? Kill themselves? Life goes on, and a healthy person has to figure out how to deal with the shocks, tragedies, and sad events that happen and move forward. I know Duffy became Buddhist (or became more involved). Jennifer has always seemed to have a strong faith in God, so that helps. And she hasn't completely abandoned her past & family; when she was on Oprah last year, she had several of her aunts or cousins doing the Weight Watchers, too. And just because someone can hold it together in public doesn't mean they don't have moments of weakness & overwhelming sadness in private.
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