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Post by divasahm on Sept 2, 2018 11:27:16 GMT -4
I was not aware of the groping incident when I posted yesterday--that was completely unacceptable.
I still think that skirt could've used another couple of inches, though... #oldfogy
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2018 13:11:06 GMT -4
I once went to a funeral where a girl was dressed in full goth gear: white makeup, black and white stripe tights, big black boots, frilly weird short dress. It was surreal. Everyone was dressed in solemn, mourning clothes and there she was looking like an extra from a Tim Burton movie. Did I mention it was her grandmother's funeral?
Not sure what the point was except my mother always said, "Dress appropriately for any event you are invited because 1) it is respectful and 2) the event is not about you. You have plenty of times to dress just for you." #oldfogytoo
As for the groping just imagine what he's like in private if he is willing to do that at a televised event.
I'm sorry but people of both sexes are pissing me off lately.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2018 15:10:47 GMT -4
I think the dress can be inappropriate, and the preacher can still be a creep. I’m far from a prude, but I think there’s a level of respect that should be shown at a funeral that doesn’t involve a dress that is in danger of showing your unmentionables to the mourners. I’m in no way saying that her dress caused the preacher to grope her, or that she deserved it, etc. And I agree with those who say he would have done it no matter what she was wearing. These can be separate issues. I will never think it’s okay to attend a funeral dressed like you’re hitting up the club straight after. If this makes me a bad feminist, so be it.
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Post by GinFizz on Sept 2, 2018 18:38:11 GMT -4
I feel like the dress code for showbiz funerals is a little different, though. Aretha was not one known for covering up either.
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Post by Ladybug on Sept 2, 2018 22:02:33 GMT -4
People at my church wear such inappropriate clothing (short skirts, platform heels, shorts, flip flops, torn up T-shirt’s with dumb stuff on them) that nothing really shocks me anymore. The preacher was gross, and there are clips of Bill Clinton leering at her (not surprising tbh). These men are at a funeral, act with some reverence.
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Post by narm on Sept 3, 2018 1:48:02 GMT -4
I am so sick of Bill Clinton. He’s a great speaker; all folksy and engaging but I’m so done with him. I like his daughter and his wife, very much. He’s just such a pervy yeehaw. For that matter, I like Monica Lewinsky a lot, too.
Topic... I don’t have much. I still think she must be recovering somewhat from the concert tragedy. Between that and her unabashed feminism, I root for her.
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Post by CyberCathy on Sept 3, 2018 2:05:34 GMT -4
I am so sick of Bill Clinton. He’s a great speaker; all folksy and engaging but I’m so done with him. I like his daughter and his wife, very much. He’s just such a pervy yeehaw. For that matter, I like Monica Lewinsky a lot, too. Topic... I don’t have much. I still think she must be recovering somewhat from the concert tragedy. Between that and her unabashed feminism, I root for her. Seconded! To add to the old lady brigade. I’ve move beyond Cafeteria Catholic into full on Chrieaster, but, damn, I still shudder at even jeans in church. Old habits and all. I’m on the “creep will be creep” train and also the “why certain lengths aren’t appropriate” train. |
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Post by ladyboy on Sept 3, 2018 9:52:01 GMT -4
Pervy yeehaw! I love that description.
And I agree that people should dress appropriately for the occasion. I guess we should be happy she wore black, given that so many people don't even do that for a funeral these days.
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Post by divasahm on Sept 3, 2018 12:48:37 GMT -4
...my mother always said, "Dress appropriately for any event you are invited because 1) it is respectful and 2) the event is not about you. You have plenty of times to dress just for you." #oldfogytoo Parenting brilliance at its best--thank you for sharing! I have no doubt that I will be quoting your mother soon and often... |
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Post by chonies on Sept 3, 2018 15:53:27 GMT -4
Aww, I feel for that goth kid--I wonder if she thought she really was dressing appropriately. I was never full goth (too chunky/broke) but my goth friends didn't have any muggle clothing and when they had to go straight (court appearances, mostly), they made an effort that usually involved taking out the more extreme piercings and hide other things as best as possible. That said, some were also divas who would have gone in full goth makeup to some place other than a club/art class and were weirded out that people were giving them the gas face.
Also, I think the black at a funeral thing might be evolving--it might be a regional thing, but I've lost count of the number funerals/memorial services I've heard or read about that have a sundae bar, 5K, dance party, drunken beach bonfire that may include a casting of ashes, etc. Many of my college students have never been to a funeral because they don't know anyone who's died, so there's also a break in understanding traditional etiquette.
That said, I feel bad for Ariana.
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