Ewan McGregor

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Seriously, though, it DOES sound to Lainey like they are happy.

I read the Lainey article too. I love Lainey. But, is it really possible to have an open marriage(if that is what's going on here) and be happy in any long term kind of way? I mean, it all sounds good when it's speculated about and everything and if both parties agree, but does it really work for some people? Because I just don't understand how it could. Maybe at first it might but I would think there would just have be so many issues that could come up and just human nature for some kind of jealousy on one person's part or the other. How would these open marriage kind of people deal with that? How could you not be jealous if you saw your husband all happy and loveydovey with someone else? Wouldn't you then want to oneup him and do the same thing and then wouldn't it become some kind of competition kind of thing? I guess there must be all kinds of ground rules that an open marriage couple would have to have to even try to have this kind of relationship to begin with.

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How would these open marriage kind of people deal with that? How could you not be jealous if you saw your husband all happy and loveydovey with someone else?

That's what I'm wondering, at least in this particular case.

I assumed in open marriages that you sleep with who you like but ultimately you spend your nights holding hands with the person you're married to (well, this is what I assumed after watching Swingtown).

In Ewan and the new girlfriend's case it seems as if they have actual emotions going on as they hold each other's hands. There looks to a certain emotional intimacy there.

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True, but then if you've ever seen pictures of him and Eve together, you see the same thing. (Even recent pictures)

So maybe it'll all amount to nothing. (After all, there's just these photos of them walking along. Ewan's a pretty touchy-feely guy, from what I've seen)

If you go back to the Ewan Playground link I posted earlier, there's some newer pictures in a later entry where they look happier. (He's even planting one on her. Soooo, seriously, I hope they work things out. They have a pet duck, for crying out loud!!!)

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True, but then if you've ever seen pictures of him and Eve together, you see the same thing. (Even recent pictures)

I guess what I assumed is that in open marriages you only share that kind of intimacy with the wife/husband while the alternate girlfriend/boyfriend just gets the sex and none of that emotional stuff.

I guess I didn't think that one would behave the same way with both. I figured the wife would get the more intimate part, and the mannerisms would be different depending on which person you're with.

I think I may have also assumed you meet the other person just for sex but don't really stroll around with them holding hands. But, again, anything I know only comes from the show Swingtown and that one episode of The O.C. where Sandy and Kirsten to take part in the swapping partners singles party.

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In this picture of him with Melanie, except for the way he's holding her hand, he seems more like he's just arm in arm with a friend. It's the look on her face that seems more lovey-dovey.

Oh well. Who knows?

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It's the look on her face that seems more lovey-dovey.

True. I think it's her who looks more attached to him.

I guess I'm curious as to what happens when the alternate girlfriend falls for the husband. I thought part of the rules of this kind of pairing meant that feelings shouldn't develop.

Of course, I admit I'm just speculating. I'm don't know any of these people so I'm not sure what they're actually feeling. I was just immediately struck by how she was looking at him -- she was looking at him in a rather adoring way. You don't even see that with couples on the red carpet who are assumed to be in love with each other.

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Either that or she's drunk off her ass.

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There's no set of rules for an open relationship. Each couple has to establish their own. As far as jealousy, anger, dissatisfaction and misplaced emotions, those all occur in monogamous relations, too. I don't have statistics to back this up, but I doubt that monogamous relations have a higher success rate than open relationships over the long term.

Whatever terms Ewan McGregor and his wife have hammered out for their relationship, I hope it works for them and that they're both on the same page. It's not really an open relationship if one person feels strong-armed into it. Plus they have children. You have to tread very carefully in any relationship when kids are involved.

Topic: I find Ewan very charming and I love his wiry build, but his overall liplessness stops me from falling completely fangirly over him. I admire the hell out of him for trying new and different roles both on screen and off.

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Don't Monica Bellucci and Vincent Cassel also have an open marriage? They've been married close to 11yrs, together in total 14, so that kind of arrangement might work out.

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I saw him on the Regis today and when Regis asked him how Polanski was I was praying he did not say something in support of him...cause I would have to stop loving him. He had his wedding ring on.


Oh shoot over on Polanski site said he was on GMA said it's none of my business. Sigh.