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Post by narm on Aug 19, 2019 1:55:19 GMT -4
I bet he said it because he did refer to his first, deceased wife. It’s probably sticky all around. It’s a little yikes, for sure, for his kids, but hopefully they are old enough to not get hurt by it. It would probably bug me.
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Post by petitesuite on Aug 19, 2019 12:24:29 GMT -4
The 'love of my life' thing is definitely awkward, but I also can't think of a better way to put it. I think if I were that man's kid I wouldn't have felt too great about it, though! Although hopefully I'd be able to take it in the way it was intended.
I never see gifts brought to the reception in my family/circle. In my family you mail it to the couple ahead of the wedding and amongst my friends you have it shipped directly from the website to the couple! We are low-rent folk.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2019 12:31:47 GMT -4
Once again, this reminds me of how wedding gift appropriateness seems to be a totally regional thing! I'm from NJ and here, you DO bring a gift to the reception and that gift IS a card with a check in it. Gifts at the bridal shower; money on the day of.
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Post by petitesuite on Aug 19, 2019 16:17:18 GMT -4
I would say in my world the bridal shower has been replaced by the bachelorette (or at least, I don't know anyone who's had a shower and everyone I know had a bachelorette that multiple attendees flew in for #millenniallife). As you say, though, there's so much that goes into wedding-related cultural stuff. One thing that I think has a huge influence on what's normal for me is that I don't know anyone who lives within spitting distance of where they grew up or where their family is. I think that has a really big impact on creating a 'wedding normal.'
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2019 16:36:15 GMT -4
The last wedding I attended (which was also for friends in their 50s, and a second marriage for one of them) I ordered something from their registry on Amazon and had it sent to their house ahead of time. They had a little basket for cards on the day but that was it.
This is something that I think is really family or even couple specific, so there isn't one rule for what's "proper."
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Post by addison on Aug 20, 2019 16:40:01 GMT -4
I was rewatching the wedding episode of Glee this weekend (don't judge me) and Burt Hummel mentioned meeting the "second love of my life" which I liked because everyone knew the background about his first wife's death. I don't really like the phrase love of my life for the reason you mentioned, feels like you're pitting them against each other. You can have different loves at different points in your life.
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Post by chonies on Aug 20, 2019 16:49:27 GMT -4
I mean, I've eaten dinners that were the love of my life (seriously, there's this falafel place in Ireland and they hand cut the chips and the chilli sauce is unnghhhhhhh so good), but then again, I didn't have to consider the feelings of adult children. It's kind of odd, but maybe the kids were ok with it. Or maybe it was a spur of the moment thing, and he was just going with the flow.
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Post by mojogirl on Jun 30, 2021 11:29:46 GMT -4
My son graduated HS exactly two weeks ago, and he just finished writing all his thank-you notes for graduation gifts (with some prodding from me.)
Me: Doesn't it feel good to have them all done?
Him: Ugh.
Me: Unless someone else sends you more money... then you'll have to write more!
Him: Noooo!
*first world problems
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Post by groovethang on Jun 30, 2021 13:09:54 GMT -4
My son graduated HS exactly two weeks ago, and he just finished writing all his thank-you notes for graduation gifts (with some prodding from me.) Me: Doesn't it feel good to have them all done? Him: Ugh. Me: Unless someone else sends you more money... then you'll have to write more! Him: Noooo! *first world problems LOL. I totally get it, though. After having my son and having to write out thank you notes, I do remember thinking, “please, please, please don’t let anyone else give us anything else for this baby.” I think that’s because I hardly ever write anymore and the hand cramps were a huge PITA. |
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Post by divasahm on Jun 30, 2021 13:45:14 GMT -4
We didn't send out announcements for ds3's graduation this spring--it just seemed weird with the pandemic and all--but even without the announcements, both sides of our families sent lovely cards with generous checks in them. She has diligently responded with lovely hand-written notes thanking the gift-givers.
Once again, I think back to the days when numerous doctors, teachers, and counselors warned me that she might never speak, read, write, or live any semblance of a normal life. If anything, she's TOO normal, now--and I can't wait to see what she does next.
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